This book is equal parts pep talk and sarcasm aimed towards helping readers learn what to care more about in their lives and how to measure their successes relative to values that are actually important and meaningful.
Nobody is ever responsible for your situation but yourself.
Choose the pain you want to suffer.
Growth is never-ending. You are never right, just slightly less wrong – trying to reach perfection knowing you’ll never get there. And that’s ok.
If I mess up on a project (whether I could blame a client for having misguided feedback or blame a coworker for missing some crucial piece of information, etc.), it is still my responsibility to handle it gracefully and professionally and make the best of the situation. If something goes wrong, I should take responsibility for my problems.
I was reminded through this book of this saying: Nothing worth having is easy to obtain. I choose to train for triathlons and run long distances because it is a pain I want to suffer and a goal I want to reach. It makes me feel like I am achieving something and becoming a better person. Ultimately, I enjoy waking up at 5 am and riding miles and miles on a bike because this is the pain I have chosen to suffer.
Sometimes I get embarrassed when I make a mistake or when someone points out a flaw in my character or personality, but I have to realize that the more I fail, the more I learn and the more I improve.
“He never tried to be anything other than what he was.” – Mark Manson of Bukowski, the loser poet/writer
“But when you stop and really think about it, conventional life advice – all the positive and happy self-help stuff we hear all of the time – is actually fixating on what you lack. It lasers in on what you perceive your personal shortcomings and failures to be, and then emphasizes them for you.” – Mark Manson
“Growth is an endlessly iterative process.” – Mark Manson