Book Category: Motivational,

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (book summary)

Author: Brene Brown
Life Changing Principles
Quality of Writing
Overall Value
pros: Insightful, moving
cons: Sometimes too high level
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Quick Summary

Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection breaks out 10 guideposts for Wholehearted living. It’s a powerful and insightful read.

Key Insights

  • Owning our story is difficult
  • You learn courage by couraging
  • Shame hates it when we reach out and tell a story
  • Courage means to “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.”
  • The heart of compassion is really acceptance
  • Shame is basically the fear of being unlovable
  • Shame is the master emotion
  • Perfectionism hampers success

Personal Application

  • Acknowledge situations that are “guilt” based vs “shame” based
  • Stop focusing on scarcity but rather on sufficiency

Meaningful Quotes 

“If we want to fully experience love and belonging, we must believe that we are worthy of love and belonging.”

“Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”

“You have to be brave with your life so that others can be brave with theirs.” – Katherine Center

“My scientist friends have come up with things like ‘principles of uncertainty’ and dark holes. They’re willing to live inside imagined hypotheses and theories. But many religious folks insist on answers that are always true. We love closure, resolution and clarity, while thinking that we are people of ‘faith’! How strange that the very word ‘faith’ has come to mean its exact opposite.” – Richard Rohr

“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman

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